发现了 的定律。
作者 : Stephen Covey
It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
它将改变你的一生（最低限度，它将改变你对不同情况的反应）。
What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.
90/10 的定律是什么？生命的 10% 是由你的际遇所组成，余下的 90% 则由你的反应而决定。
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.
这意味着什么？我们无法掌握那 10% 的际遇。 我们无法阻止行程因汽車坏掉、航班误点，甚或車子抛锚而延误。
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
我们无法控制那 10% 的际遇，但余下的 90% 则不然。你可以决定余下的 90% 。
How? ………. By your reaction.
如何？ … 凭你的反应。
You cannot control a red light. But you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
你不能控制交通灯转红，但你能够控制你的反应。别让他人愚弄你，你能够控制你的反应。
Let's use an example.
让我们举个例子。
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.
你与你的家人吃早餐，你的女儿不小心把咖啡泼倒在你的衬衫上，这是你无法控制的情况。
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
下一步将如何则由你的反应而定。
You curse.
你开始责骂。
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
你狠狠地臭骂女儿一顿，令她陷于痛苦之中。然后你又把怨气发泄在太太身上，责难她把咖啡放在桌边。接踵而來的是一场短暂的骂战。你生气地上樓更换你的衬衫。你下樓，然后发现你的女儿正哭着吃早餐并赶着回校。结果，她错过了巴士。
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
你的太太赶着上班，你匆忙开車把女儿送回学校。因为你已经迟到了，你以时速四十英里在一条限速三十英里 上的道路前进。
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.
你付了六十元道路罚款，终于抵达学校，并已迟到十五分钟。你的女儿没有跟你道别便已跑进学校。你回到公司，已是九时二十分了，这时你竟然发现──你忘了带公文包。这是非常糟糕的一天，而你感到你的运气每况越下，你开始渴望回家。
When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
当你下班回家，你感到你与太太及女儿的关系上出现微小裂痕。
Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning.
为什么？ … 一切皆由你早上的反应而起。
Why did you have a bad day?
为何你会有如此糟糕的一天？
A) Did the coffee cause it? Ａ）是咖啡所造成的吗？
B) Did your daughter cause it? Ｂ）是你的女儿所造成的吗？
C) Did the policeman cause it? Ｃ）是警察所造成的吗？
D) Did you cause it? Ｄ）是你所造成的吗？
The answer is “D". 答案是Ｄ。
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5
Seconds is what caused your bad day.
你无法控制女儿打翻咖啡一事，但你在紧接那五秒内的反应让霉运开始发生。
Here is what could have and should have happened.
以下是你改写命运的结局。
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
咖啡翻倒在你身上，你的女儿几乎要哭了，但你温柔地說：「亲爱的，这并不算什么，但你下次得小心一点了。」你拿起毛巾便上樓去。在你更衣完毕并拿起你的公文包后，你下樓去，望出窗外，你看到你的孩子正在上巴士。她回头并向你挥手。你早了五分钟回到公司，并亲切地与你的同事打招呼。你的上司亦对你新的一天给予正面的评价。
Notice the difference?
看到兩者的分别吗？
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
兩个不同的情景，由同一个开首所引起。但结局完全兩样。
Why?
为什么？
Because of how you REACTED.
皆因你的反应而起。
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
你或许真的无法掌控 10% 的际遇，但剩下的 90% 则可以由你的反应而定。
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!
以下有一些实践 90/10 定律的方法。如有人說起你的是非，千万别当一块「海绵」，让那些攻击性的說话像水在玻璃上一般的流走。别让那些负面评价缠绕着你！
React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
适当的响应能够使你的生活免受破坏。一个错误的反应能够使你失去朋友、生气、甚或被压力压得喘不过气來。
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?
如果車子抛锚了，你会如何感想？你会生气吗？你会否猛击車上的铁鍊？我的一个朋友就把铁鍊弄下來！你会怒骂吗？你的血压是否急速上升？你会否尝试去踫击他们？
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
谁会在意你上班迟到了十秒？为何让車子破坏你的驾驶过程？
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
记着 90/10 的定律，别在意。
You are told you lost your job.
你被通知說你被辞退了。
Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
你为何失眠与愤怒 ? 事情总是发生了。不如用你忧心的力量及时间去找寻新工作吧！
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.
航班延误了，而它将影响你一整天的行程。为何将你的怒气发泄在服务员的身上？她并不能阻止事情发生。
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
如利用你的时间学习，或认識旁边的乘客。不要愤怒，它将令你的一天变的更糟。
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
现在，你懂得了 90/10 的定律。实践它，你将会发现它的惊人效果。尝试实行它，你将不会有任何损失。 90/10 的定律非常神奇，而只有很少數的人懂得运用它。
The result?
结果呢？
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
超过百万人沈溺在痛苦、尝试、问题与心伤之中。我们必须理解并实践 90/10 的定律。
It CAN change your life!!!
它将改变你的一生。
Enjoy…. 愿与各位并勉！
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